How to Get The Most Out of Your Online Dating Experience
There is no denying that attitudes have changed when it comes to internet dating. There was a time when the admission of using a dating website as a means to meet men or women would have rendered the user a social pariah. Unfairly or not, it garnered a reputation as a refuge for the desparate and unlucky in love and although attitudes have changed for the better, there is still a stigma attached to the practice of internet dating that has not fully dissapated. Taking those first steps to create a dating profile online can be a daunting step, but the good news is there are certain rules to follow that can help make the dating experience much more pleasant. Whether it be for love, marriage or merely to meet people and have fun, following a few simple rules can help to keep the experience fun and positive.
What's in a name? Before setting up a profile for potential partners to peruse, it is absolutely vital to choose a profile name that not only creates the right impression but that is reflective of your personality. A lot can be taken from a name so consider what impression the name gives the reader. To use an example, a friend once used the profile name recently released, referring to the fact that they had just recently came out of a long term relationship. After a couple of days of sending emails, their efforts were met with very little success, until one woman asked why they had been in prison. Needless to say, he rectified the mistake, and kept it simple.
Think about what you are writing. A mistake a lot of people make when writing their profiles, is they write lots but in fact say absolutely nothing. They fill it with meaningless platitudes and cliches and in trying to set themselves a part from the competition, they do the exact opposite. You may wish to avoid writing statements such as "I like to enjoy myself". It will be widely assumed that you like to enjoy yourself, like every other member of the human race. It is better to write less and get to the point than write pages upon pages stating that you like to live life to the full, grab the bull by the horns and put your best foot forward.
Context There is absolutely no harm in injecting a bit of humour into your profile but when doing so, bear in mind that what has been typed into text form may come across in a completely different manner or tone than if it was spoken. Before adding a harmless and inoffensive quip to your profile, it is prudent to read it over a couple of times to check that it cannot be interpretated in an offensive manner. You may also be an expert when it comes to having a wry, dead pan sense of humor, but adopting this approach on your profile may just make you look unbelievably dull and unpleasant. Again, ensuring that what you say cannot be taken out of context is advisable.
Be Nice! One of the biggest and most common mistakes made by men when dating online is lacing their profile with double entendres and innuendos. A highly suggestive profile should be avoided at all cost. What your friends find funny at the bar might not neccessarily be appropriate for an online dating site. So keep it clean, and if you are unsure as to whether or not you should say something, err on the side of caution and do not say it. If you are genuinely looking for your soul mate, then it is best to refrain from sending someone an email requesting they be physically intimate with you at the first instance. It does not create the right impression and if you act a certain you will attract a certain type of person. It is important to say to yourself, "would I speak to that person?"
The dating tips above are by no means exhaustive, but they help to show that a little bit of forethought can go a long way in the quest for love and romance online. It truly is the little things that help to make that all important first impression and following these simple rules will help you get the most out of your online dating adventure.